Secrets to dating beautiful women
She might worry that she no longer turns you on and she will want assurance that that is not true.
She will want to talk about what's going on and what you are doing about it, especially if it's a recurring problem.
A good rule of thumb is to give the relationship at least two months to grow before entering the sexual arena. "They want to feel connected and understood, they want to be romanced." That means time and talking and touching -- in other words, foreplay.
This is something both of you need to focus on, but Kirschner says that women appreciate it and feel more protected when the guy makes it clear that it's a concern to him -- and then shows her that he practices what he preaches.
If she tells you that she is upset because her boss gave her a tough time, she wants to hear you say, "I'm sorry that work was such a drag for you today." And remember: Resist the urge to offer solutions.
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"Men feel the need to fix things because they are solution-oriented," says Kirschner.
"But to a woman, really listening is a wonderful, wonderful thing that deepens the relationship." Listening is important, but she also wants to know that she is being heard. When she pauses, she's giving you a cue to respond in a compassionate, caring way, says Kirschner.
If she's looking particularly attractive, if she has a new haircut, if she's looking more fit -- let her hear about it.
When your woman wants to talk about the relationship, it doesn't mean you did something wrong (well, not necessarily).
Kirschner says that women prefer their men to make eye contact with them as they're talking. This is something that women are often quite up front about. If she's ready and she's given you time, the next time the subject comes up, be prepared to step up or step off.