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I will not show her my knee-jerk resistance to this tale of adultery that offers no apology. “Tell me about your marriage before you say anything of the affairs.” “I married at 19. Older men would approach me and I was so naive, I didn’t know what was going on. It was love at first sight, but I realize now I was looking for someone to love me. So, I don’t think we should share a room anymore.’ He turned and left. He was in the hospital once for appendicitis and was in a lot of pain. “I agreed to meet him in Portland for two days,” continued Laura.He was very attractive, and at 22 he already had a good job. It hadn’t been acceptable that I’d move out on my own; I think my parents were relieved that someone was going to take care of me. He never said anything, and we never talked about it.” “Nothing? I wanted him to know that I really cared about him, so I leaned over and kissed him on the cheek. That was the last time we touched.” “How can you function within the house or when you have friends over? “I told my husband I was going on a shopping trip to Toronto.George’s School in Middletown and the Gordon School in East Providence also conveyed their support for the bill, which has no restrictions on how far back the cases might reach.I was with a friend that I had gone road tripping with, and we stayed at my boyfriend's house for a night while we were on holiday.One night I was in bed with the lights out talking to him on the phone, and he said, ‘I’m in love with you.’ That’s really something. I got so caught up in having this man in love with me. A friend in Kingston, Ont., was my alibi.” “Sitting on the plane I thought I was going to have a heart attack. “We saw each other three more times over the next year.I wore a denim Liz Claiborne dress with a scoop neck, really cute. I had been honest with Matthew about my relationship with my husband. He said if he could compartmentalize his life it would be fine, but I’d taken over so much of him. And when that happens we both retreat to our own part of the house.” “What could be worse than this?
“It was after he dumped me that I really started thinking. But he is a lawyer from a good family; my dad had worked in a factory and came home dirty. ” There it is again: the spectre of being working class; the ghost of her mother rising up, requiring her to worry about appearances, about what people will think. Perhaps Laura needs that kick, needs Ben to force the decision.“When we got engaged, we started to have sex and I really liked it. In the afternoon I went to Victoria’s Secret and spent US on a pair of lacy black panties! Later we walked around the neighbourhood with his dog, talking and laughing and holding hands. I cried from the time he said goodbye to when I landed in Ottawa.” I watch across the table at how the romance of it all holds her still.It was my first experience and I knew nothing at all. I thought you could only have one orgasm, so when I felt it building I’d suppress it because I didn’t want things to be over too soon. He booked a room for me with a king-size bed and Jacuzzi. I thought I was ready mentally, but I wasn’t prepared for the intensity of it. As with the brief Portland affair, the descriptions of dresses, underwear, flowers, how he opened the car door or held her chair, remain in vivid detail.Friends dreamt of bridal gowns and sugared almonds and happily-ever-after; I desired a garret and its resident poet. The second night we went out for dinner but didn’t do anything. We continued to write, and I was hoping that we’d still be able to get together once in a while. ” “He’d been married less than two years, Laura,” I said. “I went back to the chat room because I liked the interaction and the flirting. Matthew was divorced, a successful lawyer in Florida. I opened up a post office box so he could send me real letters and photos—his dog, his kids, house, car, friends. “We drove home through the back roads and passed alongside a cornfield. I said I’d love to walk through that, and he stopped the car and we walked through this tall, tall corn. I recall her comment on how good premarital sex had been, how the taboo of it heightened the thrill, how the thrill dissipated within convention. “Then seven years ago my father died, only a short time after the death of my mother. I remember him patting me on the back, telling me it would all be fine. A little after that he was ill and we slept apart for a week or so. It was as if a switch had been turned on all of a sudden. And I hadn’t even slept with a man.” I remember my own first relationship after divorce, rediscovering the pleasures of lust and femininity—things that had imperceptibly seeped away year by year.