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Posted by / 09-Apr-2017 01:56

Very few would purposefully invalidate someone else.But well-intentioned people may be uncomfortable with intense emotions or believe that they are helping when they are actually invalidating. The truth is that validation is not self-acceptance, it is only an acknowledgement that an internal experience occurred.

A person can state, “You think it’s wrong that you’re angry with your friend,” and not agree with you. But because they want to reassure you they invalidate by saying, “You shouldn’t think that way.” Wanting to Fix Your Feelings: “Come on, don’t be sad. ” People who love you don’t want you to hurt so sometimes they invalidate your thoughts and feelings in their efforts to get you to feel happier.Some believe that invalidation is a major contributor to emotional disorders.Most people would deny that they invalidate the internal experience of others.In terms of self-invalidation, many emotionally sensitive people would agree they invalidate themselves, but would argue that they deserve it. Verbal Invalidation There are many different reasons and ways that people who care about you invalidate you. Misinterpreting What It Means to Be Close: Sometimes people think that knowing just how someone else feels without having to ask means they are emotionally close to that person.It’s like saying they know you as well as you know you, so they don’t ask, they assume, and may even tell how you think and feel.

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Not Wanting to Hurt Your Feelings: Sometimes people lie to you in order to not hurt your feelings.

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