Best friend and the guy you like are dating
Afterwards, I always dreaded the awkward next encounter. It is typically the woman who tries to impose the "friends first" limitation on the man, when what she really means is there's not going to be any sex (aka "going slow", aka "down boy, down!
It's important to treat all your friendships with respect. ") because she seems to think the most salient aspect of friendship is not having sex, or maybe because she wants traditional courtship and/or thinks the man has to prove himself to her first (rarely is it the other way around) but can't put it that way.
Let's act like we're "just friends" even though we're really dating.
This all sorta misses Eric Berne's point that "the essence of friendship is that there is no active Parental ego state under ordinary conditions.
Attraction must always be present and must always come prior to any romantic connection.
It doesn't have to be physical, but I think there needs to be something about that person that turns you on.
I'm never fully attracted to someone unless I think of them as a friend first. The sex part just either completes what was developed, or if they're both asexuals it never forms part of the relationship. Sex is mostly just a biological urge nothing to do with love.Jealousy and possessiveness occur in all relationships- including friendships.I've been envious of new friends that supplant old friendships.It was probably, because at some point, I ended up making out with these supposed guy friends. ) This Jen Kim Want to know when I write a new post? Sources: "Will Love Last Longer If You Are Friends First? It's all the more confusing when friendship is offered as a consolation prize.Usually alcohol or loneliness were the culprits of these lamentable decisions. (After all, we are all prone to occasional lapses in judgement.) If you stick to that philosophy, then you can and definitely be friends. Any man knows that to be told by a woman that she thinks of you as a friend is to be told to keep your hands to yourself.
Then later, as some times goes by, suddenly, you begin to notice all these fantastic qualities about them that you didn't know existed, and boom! You're looking for your friend to get ahead by looking out for his best interest. Some people are on their best behavior until they cross the threshold. But your true nature will surface when you're a person's friend first.